30 Days in… My third “Decaday”

So I have basically been on this path for a month. How many of you are wondering about results? Previously I would try thing for a week, a month, maybe longer if I had some success. However, I know now that I am just barely scratching the surface. I am just getting some habits set in stone, and even struggling to make other habits stick. Some people say it takes “21 days to make a habit” but that has been disproved over and over again. This is why I am not worried about the progress that I have or have not made after a month. This is why I am ONLY encouraged to see “the messy middle” (as Michael Hyatt calls it) coming on the horizon. I know I’m ready. I know I will overcome the adversity and demons that are are still nipping at my heals, telling me this is too hard. It’s not. Everyone is stronger than they think and the days to prove this are only ahead for me. I cannot wait to face those days.

But it is important to keep a record of where I am…

Becoming who I want to be begins and ends with my health and energy. It’s no secret in looking at me that I am not in the best physical condition so I have made this one of my top priories. I can say that I have not missed a workout since I started this program and am seeing and feeling results. I do want to report that I am down 7 pounds in 30 days, and over 20 pounds since the first of the year. I have an energetic little girl, so it’s hugely important that this continues to be one of my priorities so I’m not too tired to play with her. Plus, in sales, confidence is a big part of “winning the sale” so I have to feel good about myself when I am presenting to customers. I want to report I am seeing a big cardiovascular improvement, specifically not running out of breath while talking. It was embarrassing, but not uncommon to run out of breath while explaining a policy to a customer. Who would want to buy from a guy that sounds like he might pass out on the table at any moment right?

So what about the struggle going on inside me? We all have one, that inner fight. Call it productive vs. lazy, good vs. evil, or whatever you want to label it. Fact is, we all struggle inside whether we want to admit it or not. My struggles aren’t any worse or better than anyone else’s, we all have our stuff. Some may seem to handle it better than others but we never REALLY know what others are going through. That’s why I try my best not to judge, you just never know. But anyways, my Miracle Morning is a HUGE help in dealing with my inner struggles. I have not missed a single day of my S.A.V.E.R.S.. Although, I don’t exactly do them in the order the book suggests. After I wake up, drain the bladder (TMI right?), and brush my teeth, I read for 15 minutes. Then I review my planner to see what the day holds so I know what mindset I’m prepping for. I recite my affirmations aloud, spend five minutes with one of my vision boards, scribe (journal) what I am thankful for and what would make today great, and then meditate for 10 minutes. I save the meditation or “silence” portion until after the others so I can use the quiet to dial in my mind. Then it’s off to exercise and get the endorphins fired up. All this before 8:00am!

I make time each evening to spend with my family and my hobbies. My daughter is growing so fast it’s unreal. Some days we get to spend more time than others, but it is what it is as they say. I know how important it is to “Unwind” before bed so some days I pick around on guitar. Some days I might do a project on my house or Jeep. Just something that is entertaining but still stimulates my mind as I’m not much of a TV watcher.

And then there’s the struggle. I still find myself having a hard time with work. It’s not that I don’t like what I do, I love it. I truly love helping people and teaching them about ways to protect their finances, future, and families from something unexpected. I know this is excuses but I can’t overcome if I hold it in. I think the combination of the father’s day stigma and missing my dad coupled with a widow I met with to file a death claim triggered me more than usual the past 10 days. I talked to the lady on the phone first and her story was eerily familiar with her husband passing much like my father did and with a similar diagnosis. But the good news is, that 10-day cycle is gone, I can’t change it, and I can only learn from it and move forward. Luckily, the organization I partner with now had an INCREDIBLE web-conference today that really helped me shake that off, see that others have struggled the way I have and became great leaders, and inspired me to lean into my recovery in this aspect more. Funny how things come at just the right time.

After Action Review…

I am going to start leaning into my mentors more and being more raw in telling them what is going on in my head. I have kept my issues somewhat bottled up and only “dripped” sprinkles of what’s really on my mind here and there. My mind is a very powerful thing and who knows? they may have insights that could help me more than the “professionals” I have hired and paid to try to overcome my mind.

I am going to stop shutting down when things don’t go as planned. I may have said this before, but I need to reiterate to myself to keep leaning into the pain in order to grow. If I can overcome this physically in my workouts, there’s no reason that I shouldn’t be able to do it in all areas of my life. I am reading “Can’t Hurt Me” by David Goggins right now, and it is doing SO much in helping me see what can be done with the right mindset.

I am going to keep working on my mind and body daily. The progress, both seen and unseen is driving me for more. And the encouragement of followers keeps throwing fuel on this flame. There is so much waiting for me in so many aspects if I just keep doing what I am doing each day. And I want to find others to join me so we can all push each other. I am pushing toward my potential… Who’s coming with me?