30 Days in… My third “Decaday”

So I have basically been on this path for a month. How many of you are wondering about results? Previously I would try thing for a week, a month, maybe longer if I had some success. However, I know now that I am just barely scratching the surface. I am just getting some habits set in stone, and even struggling to make other habits stick. Some people say it takes “21 days to make a habit” but that has been disproved over and over again. This is why I am not worried about the progress that I have or have not made after a month. This is why I am ONLY encouraged to see “the messy middle” (as Michael Hyatt calls it) coming on the horizon. I know I’m ready. I know I will overcome the adversity and demons that are are still nipping at my heals, telling me this is too hard. It’s not. Everyone is stronger than they think and the days to prove this are only ahead for me. I cannot wait to face those days.

But it is important to keep a record of where I am…

Becoming who I want to be begins and ends with my health and energy. It’s no secret in looking at me that I am not in the best physical condition so I have made this one of my top priories. I can say that I have not missed a workout since I started this program and am seeing and feeling results. I do want to report that I am down 7 pounds in 30 days, and over 20 pounds since the first of the year. I have an energetic little girl, so it’s hugely important that this continues to be one of my priorities so I’m not too tired to play with her. Plus, in sales, confidence is a big part of “winning the sale” so I have to feel good about myself when I am presenting to customers. I want to report I am seeing a big cardiovascular improvement, specifically not running out of breath while talking. It was embarrassing, but not uncommon to run out of breath while explaining a policy to a customer. Who would want to buy from a guy that sounds like he might pass out on the table at any moment right?

So what about the struggle going on inside me? We all have one, that inner fight. Call it productive vs. lazy, good vs. evil, or whatever you want to label it. Fact is, we all struggle inside whether we want to admit it or not. My struggles aren’t any worse or better than anyone else’s, we all have our stuff. Some may seem to handle it better than others but we never REALLY know what others are going through. That’s why I try my best not to judge, you just never know. But anyways, my Miracle Morning is a HUGE help in dealing with my inner struggles. I have not missed a single day of my S.A.V.E.R.S.. Although, I don’t exactly do them in the order the book suggests. After I wake up, drain the bladder (TMI right?), and brush my teeth, I read for 15 minutes. Then I review my planner to see what the day holds so I know what mindset I’m prepping for. I recite my affirmations aloud, spend five minutes with one of my vision boards, scribe (journal) what I am thankful for and what would make today great, and then meditate for 10 minutes. I save the meditation or “silence” portion until after the others so I can use the quiet to dial in my mind. Then it’s off to exercise and get the endorphins fired up. All this before 8:00am!

I make time each evening to spend with my family and my hobbies. My daughter is growing so fast it’s unreal. Some days we get to spend more time than others, but it is what it is as they say. I know how important it is to “Unwind” before bed so some days I pick around on guitar. Some days I might do a project on my house or Jeep. Just something that is entertaining but still stimulates my mind as I’m not much of a TV watcher.

And then there’s the struggle. I still find myself having a hard time with work. It’s not that I don’t like what I do, I love it. I truly love helping people and teaching them about ways to protect their finances, future, and families from something unexpected. I know this is excuses but I can’t overcome if I hold it in. I think the combination of the father’s day stigma and missing my dad coupled with a widow I met with to file a death claim triggered me more than usual the past 10 days. I talked to the lady on the phone first and her story was eerily familiar with her husband passing much like my father did and with a similar diagnosis. But the good news is, that 10-day cycle is gone, I can’t change it, and I can only learn from it and move forward. Luckily, the organization I partner with now had an INCREDIBLE web-conference today that really helped me shake that off, see that others have struggled the way I have and became great leaders, and inspired me to lean into my recovery in this aspect more. Funny how things come at just the right time.

After Action Review…

I am going to start leaning into my mentors more and being more raw in telling them what is going on in my head. I have kept my issues somewhat bottled up and only “dripped” sprinkles of what’s really on my mind here and there. My mind is a very powerful thing and who knows? they may have insights that could help me more than the “professionals” I have hired and paid to try to overcome my mind.

I am going to stop shutting down when things don’t go as planned. I may have said this before, but I need to reiterate to myself to keep leaning into the pain in order to grow. If I can overcome this physically in my workouts, there’s no reason that I shouldn’t be able to do it in all areas of my life. I am reading “Can’t Hurt Me” by David Goggins right now, and it is doing SO much in helping me see what can be done with the right mindset.

I am going to keep working on my mind and body daily. The progress, both seen and unseen is driving me for more. And the encouragement of followers keeps throwing fuel on this flame. There is so much waiting for me in so many aspects if I just keep doing what I am doing each day. And I want to find others to join me so we can all push each other. I am pushing toward my potential… Who’s coming with me?

“Decaday” 2 in the books!

So I have come to the end of my 2nd 10-day cycle. To be honest, it didn’t go quite like I would have liked, but it’s in the books now and I am moving forward with a plan to keep progressing.

The first thing I want to focus on is the vocational side of life. I spent a lot of time the past 10 days doing the annual enrollment for one of my larger voluntary benefit groups. Service is a big part of my business so I am in no way complaining about that time spent, but now to refocus on my Debt Free Life agency insurance sales while finding the right people to help pursue and fulfill my vision of introducing others to this industry that has been so good to me these past 8 years. Please don’t hesitate to reach out if you’d like to learn how to earn extra income and TRULY have the desire to help others.

As far as my other domains. I did excellent with my workout regimen, though the meals could have been better to match that routine. I got to spend much needed time with my family and play with my little girl. Her and her mama are a huge part of my happiness. I completed my Miracle Morning each day to take care of my spiritual, emotional, and intellectual needs.

I must say, I had some anxiety issues a couple of days this week which I really struggled with at times. Funny how that can creep up on you when you think you have everything under control. But sometimes the right thing comes along at the right time and I heard a very interesting take on anxiety and nervousness. I wish I would saved where I heard this, it was on a playlist of motivational speeches on YouTube. I was listening on the way into town this morning but then had a phone call and got sidetracked. But anyways, the speaker was talking about how reporters always ask Olympians if they’re nervous. And most of them say, “not nervous but excited!” The premise of the whole video was, nerves, anxiety, and excitement all give our bodies the same physical response. Elevated heart rate, anticipation, maybe sweating, etc.. So what if we can re-frame that feeling as excitement and use it as fuel? I feel like this is a great concept that I will definitely be implementing in the coming days.

As far as my “after action review” for the past ten days, here is where I stand. I will START searching with new avenues for the people to align myself with to grow my business. I will STOP letting anxiety control my ability to complete my daily 10, and re-frame it as excitement to use for fuel to achieve my daily goals. I will KEEP grinding each day to get better in every area of my life. It’s only been 20 days that I have been more focused, and will be laser focused more and more in the days to come.

As always, THANK YOU for following along, reaching out with encouragement, and walking each step on my path. If you haven’t followed me on social media, I try to spread inspiration each day on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

Make the next 10 days phenomenal!!!

Decaday 1.5- halfway through my second Decaday

Man! Some days just seem to lay speed bump after speed bump right? And it wasn’t even anything overly “bad” today either. A meeting went long, I sat on hold with a carrier for 45 minutes, A customer showed up 30 minutes early and took much longer than I had planned for (which lead to scheduling a follow-up to finish), and a few other unplanned interruptions… really nothing “bad.”

So why am I telling you this?

I have started to have people mention seeing what I’m doing with this blog. Some find it inspiring, some say “what $&@! is that !@&$ you keep posting about?”, and of course there are always critics. Don’t get me wrong, nobody has been mean about it. But I have got, “I don’t see how you find time to do those 10 extra things each day.”

First off, it’s not “extra things.” It’s implementing daily HABITS in a manner that will culminate to reaching my full potential. We don’t consider bathing, brushing our teeth, or changing our clothes an extra thing right? These are daily habits that we do without even thinking about.

That’s what I want my Daily 10 to become. Habits that I do without even thinking about. Routines that are just as natural and embedded in my spirit as driving to the office. And then developing a team of people in my business to have similar habits that become a part of their nature- to help them reach their potential. And they will spread these habits to people they bring into the business, an so on and so on.

Think about Chick-fil-A employees. You can visit one of their locations anywhere and say “thank you” for something to an employee. It has become embedded in their nature for their response to be “my pleasure.” So much so that these employees will carry not only that saying into other areas of their life, but also that positivity. And positivity is something that desperately needs to be spread!

So back to my day…

Although these speed bumps were laid out for me throughout the day, I still not only “managed” to complete my daily 10, I intentionally exceeded the minimum in several of the domains. Yes, I do skip watching the morning news so I can meditate, read, and other things to work on myself. No, I’m not playing “bubble gum popper” or another game on my phone to pass time during the day. Ok, so I slip occasionally, but it’s progress not perfection right? But I know by shifting this mindset and creating these habits, I will be where I want to be at the end of my 1,000 days.

We all have to start somewhere! Visit brianbroyles.com/my-plan to see how I am starting.

My First “Decaday”

Or “Dekaday” depending on how you want to spell it. Either way, I finished my first 10 day cycle yesterday. And man, was I fired up today to get to “reset”. Getting to mark off that first set of days and start fresh today was invigorating for my motivation!

I talk about it in this video:

And now to keep moving. I do an “after action review” each week, which is something I learned in a Michael Hyatt book. Just like the military does after a training excersise, I write down “what worked, what didn’t, what will I keep doing, what will I stop doing, etc..” There are several things, but here is what I want to share:

I will KEEP pushing to get my Daily 10 done each day. The small wins of checking each off is already building confidence that will pour over into other things I struggle with.

I will IMPROVE the “quality” of my Daily 10. What I mean by this is that I will strive to do more than just the minimums in each domain. I particularly want to improve this in my vocational domain as it is an area that really needs improvement.

There’s something about starting over…

I can’t tell you how excited I was to jump out of bed this morning and start my morning ritual. Breaking down my habits this way truly breathed life into them again, even the ones I have been implementing for longer than just 10 days. I know this is just the first experience in this, but it was exciting and I can’t wait to see how this part of it progresses.

Thank you all for following along this past 10 days and let’s keep it going!

Today Was Hard… But Good – Day 8

My day got off to a very bumpy start to say the least. To give you some context, here is how my workday morning routine usually goes and why I a able to clear half of my Daily 10 before leaving for work:

5:30am- wake up/brush teeth/down water
5:35am- reading 25-30 minutes
6:00am- affirmations/visualizations
6:10am- morning gratitude/journaling
6:20am- meditation/prayer
6:35am- workout prep and warmup
6:50am- strength training (or cardio or whatever is scheduled that day)
7:50am- cool down/shower/protein
8:00am- prep for the workday

I am currently on a 4-day split and today was back/bicep/abs. I warmed up with dead-lifts and then started my first working set of dead-lifts. 5 reps into my last set, I felt a little tweak in my lower back that made me drop the weight immediately. This is the second time this has happened in the last couple months, and I know exactly what it means… Trips to the chiropractor and taking it easy for a few days. I was determined not to let this get me down, so pushed through the rest of my workout and got the rest of the routine knocked off. Anyone with back issues knows that, while I was able to ride the adrenaline to finish the workout, my back was going to get worse as the day went on.

Back pain aside, I had 2 people no-show me on Zoom appointments. Followed by the third appointment of the day rescheduling me when I got there. Amazing how things happen, the first three dials I mad today all set with me, so my vocational intentions played out well. In fact, I still hit ALL of my daily 10 by pushing through the pain.

Maybe I am obsessed with completing what I need to in each domain and if I thought I was truly injured, I would not have pushed through the day. Or at least not the rest of the workout. I keep coming back to this repeating theme that through pain, self discipline, and perseverance, I will achieve my greatness.

This is why I do this

Sunday, Sunday… Day 6

Through out my life, Sundays have always been “a day of rest.” Or a day to rest by going out to eat and walk around car lots when I was younger and going out with my parents. My parents rarely missed Sunday service until the last few years of their life when my mother began having health issues. Even then, I would come visit every Sunday and bring them dinner from somewhere, usually Cracker Barrel. I really miss those days with them, and hope to make some form of that tradition with my family for years to come.

I still completed my Daily 10 today. I did something different for my “vocational domain” though that I will likely start doing each Sunday. I recorded these “voice drops” (which is like those pre-recorded messages that you get in your voicemail) and sent them out to people who have recently applied to independent sales positions that are available though the insurance marketing organization that I partner with. It basically told them to check their email for a corporate overview and link to schedule an introductory call. I know this isn’t as effective as reaching out personally, but if I am going to free the day for family time in the future, I need some form of progress each day in my vocation.

Avocation was another big area for me today. Many of you know I have this Jeep that I call “Janie the Jeep”, and she is one of my hobbies. I am doing different projects on this thing all the time. Avocation is huge part of a balanced life, so today, Janie got a bath…

My 2015 Jeep Wrangler
“Janie the Jeep”

I hope today was an awesome day for you all and I hope each of you are reaching for your goals in every area of your life as well!